I hate dating
You’re out with your friend and her new man, sitting across the table from them like a little girl out to dinner with your parents.
The conversation at dinner only serves to confirm your nagging suspicion.While covering a variety of topics, from Lena Dunham to football to the general unlikeability of Taylor Swift, you find yourself up against a wall with this guy every time.Whatever opinion you might have on any of the above topics is met with an assured rebuttal from your friend’s new man.In fact, the entire evening leaves you with a sour taste in your mouth, and subsequent group hangs fill you with certainty that you’re completely unable to make a connection with this person, and even worse — you really don’t want to. To parse out the reasons you’re feeling a certain way require you to be honest with yourself in a way that’s not alway pleasant, and could paint you in a light that’s less than flattering.Before you let your feelings solidify into a mass of hatred, heed these six steps: 1. It’s time to get to the root of why you’re feeling this way.Are you just being judgey because you don’t think this person is good enough for your friend?
Maybe you’re feeling weird because your friend has decamped to Relationship Island for the time being, and you’re fearful that this is the end of your time together.
Or, maybe the person in question really is an asshole.
Whatever the reason is, make sure that you have empirical evidence, just in case you ever decide to bring it up. It’s hard to tell yourself that you have to deal with someone you don’t like very much, because nobody enjoys doing things that they don’t want to do.
Separate the facts from your emotions, and you’ll be in the clear. One thing that nobody tells you about getting older, is that adulthood is a series of daily compromises.
We must find ways to make peace with that which doesn’t please us. You and this person have one thing in common, and it’s the friend they are dating.
A friend’s boyfriend who you always end up fighting with over the stupidest of things is a headache that you don’t have to deal with. Surely there must be common ground between you two, so put on your big girl panties and figure it out.