Dating success stories
When yet another romantic relationship came “burning down in a spectacular fashion,” Amy Webb sought the advice of her friends and family, including her grandmother. True love will find you when you least expect it,’” Webb recalls in her TED Talk.
“I can take my grandmother’s advice and sort of ‘least expect’ my way into maybe bumping into the one [of them] — or I can try online dating,” she says.She made a list of 72 items that she was looking for in a man, then ranked them by priority. All this said, not everyone is thrilled with the sweet nerds they meet online.She created a fake male profile so she could decode popular women’s strategies and then reverse-engineer her own profile. Take, for example, writer Alyssa Bereznak who wrote the Gizmodo essay, “My Brief OKCupid Affair with a World Champion Magic: The Gathering Player.” After two dates, she broke things off with him, concluding, “Maybe I’m shallow for not being able to see past Jon’s world title. But there’s a larger point here: that judging people on shallow stuff is human nature; one person’s Magic is another person’s fingernail biting.” What has your experience been with online dating?When she applied her rigorous ratings system to her plethora of possible matches, she wound up with just a single person who met all her criteria. Do you prefer to leave love up to serendipity, or do you relish the opportunity for data to guide you on the way?It seems like everyone has one or two friends who met online and actually made it honest. A friend of mine met her girlfriend on OKCupid, four years ago, and they've been together ever since.Online dating is, in fact, the second most popular way couples meet in today’s technologically-mediated world.
But when Webb began the journey, she found it much more fraught than she’d anticipated.
“I like the idea of online dating because it’s predicated on algorithms,” she says.
“These algorithms had a sea full of men that wanted to take me out on lots of dates—what turned out to be truly awful dates.” At this point, Webb decided to get really systematic, and to find out how to make online dating work for her. Read on for some more delightful (and wonderfully nerdy) online dating stories we found, well, online.
They have a perfect beautiful life out that looks like it came out of a West Elm catalog and they're probably going to get married and live happily ever after.
Time was, if you met your mate online, you developed a cover story: If anyone asked, you'd say you met in a bar or at kayaking lessons. Whether it's the fact that many of us already conduct so much of our personal and business lives online, or the proliferation of online dating sites touting their successful matches, it's perfectly acceptable to say, with pride, that you met the love of your life with your fingers on a keyboard, not wrapped around a cocktail at a singles event.
Here, five women who found their mate (or were found) online, and went from email to walking down the aisle: Anna & Sam Abma, Wycoff, New Jersey A divorced mother, Anna, 46, looked into the future and saw a time when her kids wouldn't need her around quite as much—and she'd end up alone.